Single-sided hearing loss, also known as unilateral hearing loss, is a condition in which you’re completely unable to hear out of one of your ears. Single-Sided Deafness can be difficult to live with, but these 7 tips will help make it a little easier.
Aruna has been playing musical chairs for some time now. The 43-year-old from LA has single-sided hearing loss – and she isn’t alone. Every year, this condition has nearly 60,000 new people in the United States playing musical chairs to hear better. Even worse, one in every 1,000 children is born with unilateral hearing loss.
So how does Aruna cope with her unilateral hearing loss? For one, she always arrives at work meetings early so that she can choose the seat that allows her functioning ear to face the speaker. Unfortunately, she admits it doesn’t always work because her boss likes to move around.
When she’s out at a restaurant with friends, she quickly assesses the table to make sure she’s in the chair that gives her both the best ability to hear her friends and the server.
Aruna plays musical chairs to make sure she is in the best position to hear other people, but it’s not always easy. Activities that once would have been no-brainers now require some significant forethought and reorganization, which has caused Aruna to develop some mild anxiety about the possibility of arriving somewhere late and needing to ask others to accommodate her.
It seemed like Aruna had to settle for a life of always being on-guard about her unilateral hearing loss, but then she learned some tips for living with single-sided deafness that changed how she manages her condition. Here are the 7 best ways that people like Aruna use to live better lives with single-sided hearing loss:
1. Let Others Know About Your Single-Sided Deafness
It doesn’t help you to hide the fact that you’re unable to hear out of one ear. People are able to, and often want to, help and accommodate. But they can only do so if they are aware that you struggle to hear them when they’re on your “bad ear” even when they are standing right next to you.
It’s likely that you had no problem telling your family and close friends, but you may often struggle with telling co-workers, bosses, baristas, servers, and strangers about your hearing loss condition.
Telling people about single-sided hearing loss is a lot like pulling off an adhesive bandage. It gets harder if you wait and it gets more painfully awkward if you try to dance around the issue slowly. That’s why the best action is to get it over with quickly, the earlier the better.
The ideal time to inform them is when you’re meeting them for the first time, during introductions. This helps to eliminate any awkwardness in the future if you have to ask them to repeat what they have said.
2. Specify What You Need to Cope with Unilateral Hearing Loss
Be as clear as possible when you have to tell others how they may be able to help you hear better. For example, asking them to sit on your left or right side or look at you directly when speaking leave no room for uncertainty.
Because single-sided hearing loss isn’t visible, it’s just too easy for those not close to you to forget that you’re unable to hear in one ear. You should be prepared to gently remind them how they can help you, but also don’t be afraid to let them know your needs. Most people are ready to help if you ask, so there’s no need for you to suffer in silence.
3. Use Non-Verbal Cues When Speaking with Someone
Constantly interrupting a conversation or story is a good way to get everyone involved – including yourself – annoyed at the whole situation. So instead of verbally interrupting a conversation, you may be having, indicate that you need someone to speak louder by cupping your hand behind your functioning ear. This sends a clear message that the speaker needs to speak up while letting the conversation still flow on its natural course.
Unable to hear your granddaughter tell you about her day? Lean a little bit closer to her so you can hear her better without invading her personal space. This is also an easy and subtle way to remind her to speak into your good ear.
4. Be Comfortable About Your Single-Sided Hearing: It Puts Others at Ease
Many people get nervous because they’re uncertain how to act when they meet someone who has a special need that goes unaddressed. Don’t let their imagination run wild – instead, address your hearing condition with them in an easy and straightforward manner. Demonstrating that you’re comfortable talking about your hearing challenges helps others relax.
If you’re comfortable doing so, encourage others to ask questions about your condition. If all else fails, try a little humor. Laughter breaks down barriers between people and it makes others less hesitant to try again to have a conversation with you. Try a joke like:
So I told my hearing specialist as he looked into my left ear (the bad one), “I think I’ve got single-sided hearing loss!”
“Ok,” she said. “What are the symptoms?”
I looked at her a little confused. “It’s a popular TV show with a kid named Bart. But what’s that got to do with my problem?”
Not only are jokes a great ice-breaker, but they can also help others remember more about your condition. For example, if you incorporate which ear you can’t hear with (as shown above), they’ll more easily remember which side to stand on.
5. Interrupt in Moderation
So this may seem like a contradiction to tip number three but remember that there are always exceptions to the rules – even when it comes to hearing loss. If you have unilateral hearing loss, sometimes it’s necessary to interrupt the conversation to ask for clarification. Just remember that like all good things, interrupting should be done in moderation.
That being said, try to rely on your comprehension skills to fill in any missing conversation gaps. For instance, if you miss a few words in a social conversation, you may be able to gather what was meant after the speaker continues to speak for a few sentences. Give it some time to try to figure it out, and if you still need clarification, feel free to interrupt. Again, this is where letting people know about your condition comes in handy since they’ll probably be willing to accommodate your requests if they know where you’re coming from.
6. Repeat What You Think You Heard
If you do need to interrupt and ask for clarification, there are a couple of ways to make sure you get all the information you need. When asking for clarification, make sure you voice what you think you have heard, then ask for verification to make sure it’s correct. Doing this helps out both you and the speaker, since you’ll get the clarification you need, and the speaker won’t have to repeat everything they just said. This also reminds them that you have single-sided hearing loss and need them to speak clearly in your good ear.
7. Explore Hearing Aids for Single-Sided Hearing Loss
Advanced hearing aids today can transfer sound wirelessly from the impacted side of your head to the other ear or compensate for single-sided deafness. (Wondering whether it’s better to get one or two hearing aids? Read How Many Hearing Aids Does One Person Need?) You may also want to research advances in new hearing technology…
8. Consider Treating Your Unilateral Hearing Loss
It’s possible to live with single-sided hearing without reducing your quality of life beyond just getting yourself and others accustomed to the condition, which requires some patience and a willingness to be accommodating. While most people are more than happy to help, there have been several advances in hearing technology that can treat your unilateral hearing loss.
Bone-anchored implants, for example, are surgical implants that bypass the outer ear canal altogether and send sounds straight to your inner ear. Contralateral routing of signal (CROS) and bilateral contralateral routing of signal (BiCROS) hearing aids are specifically designed for people who suffer from total hearing loss in one ear, while also having some level of hearing loss in their “good” ear. In addition, cochlear implants are being performed on people with single-sided hearing. Cochlear implants help restore bilateral hearing because it restores hearing in your “bad” ear, whereas options like CROS send the sounds to your “good” ear only. What’s the difference? Unless you restore hearing in both ears, it’ll always be a little difficult to determine where sounds are coming from.
Still not sure how to handle your single-sided hearing loss? Consider speaking with a hearing specialist to find out your options.